When I had my first child, I still worked full-time, and it was difficult leaving him behind. I worked many hours, and when I was home, I felt exhausted and unable to give my family or myself all that I wanted to give (besides financial security).
When I first started talking about going into business full-time rather than just on the side, many moms told me I was being silly. “Moms have been leaving their children to go to work for generations,” they said, “You’ll get used to it. We all do.”
I kept thinking, “Is this it? This is what my life will be like? Am I silly for wanting more?” I felt discouraged. I started telling myself that even if I did something different, what makes me think I would be successful, or any happier?
I thought, “I better just work on my attitude about my job.” And then I made a list of pros and cons (yes, I’m a total list girl) of my, then, job. Most things landed on the pros side, and so I worked on my attitude. But, to be honest with you, this was not my first time doing it. I had never truly enjoyed the job I worked in and so often worked on having an attitude of gratitude when it came to it. And so it was more like putting a band-aid on a bleeding wound.
But I was lucky enough to be married to an extraordinary man who told me that it did not matter what the status quo was. What mattered was the way I felt and what I wanted. He said, “I believe in you. You are smart, ambitious, creative, giving, and have been successful at whatever you set your mind to. Decide what you want to do and do it.”
Those words resonated in my heart and I KNEW I wanted more than the status quo. I jumped into my business with both feet and have never looked back.
The thing is, what we believe we can do and who we believe we can be is about the sum total of OUR STORY.
People will impose stories on you, and you will inflict stories on yourself. We can say our stories are ones of scarcity, difficulty, aloneness, and struggle. Or we can say our stories are ones of success, love, kindness, light, positivity, and freedom.
This does not mean you will ignore that you’ve had difficult times, but it does mean that you will not be DWELLING on those times. It means you will not let things get in the way of becoming who you want to be. It means that you will always walk forward towards your dreams.
I decided that I was a leader. I could make a success out of anything I decided to do. I did have all the tools I needed within my reach. I was worthy of financial freedom. And my ideas were going to change the life of millions! These became my story.
What is your story? Do you have a story that has been holding you back? How will you start to change?
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